I did this the first time to my cuckold husband because I had…

I did this the first time to my cuckold husband because I had read it in a cuckold/hotwife story … what surprised me, is how much I enjoyed it … fucking my husband’s tight little ass with bigger and bigger cocks makes my pussy very wet … dripping wet … sometimes I get so excited and turned on by fucking his ass … that I have to call my black stud and beg him to come over and fuck me … now, if you had ever asked me in the beginning … if I would ever be a hotwife, fucking big black studs and fucking my cuckolded husband’s ass with huge dildos … I would have laughed in your face … zero chance … now, those are some of my most favorite and erotically hot things to do … for all of you wives out there who are afraid to try new things … especially when it comes to sex … let yourself go and have some fun … these are the moments you’ll remember forever and the bonds you’ll create with your husband cannot be duplicated … go for it girls … embrace the hotwife lifestyle !!!

I’ve only done this a couple of times … but watching…

I’ve only done this a couple of times … but watching this, I think I need to do it a few more !!! It is good to be the hotwife !!!

Pegging Introduction

healthysexymarriage:

keephimcaged:

With all the pegging posts I made yesterday I’ve been pointed to a fabulous little website all about sensual, loving pegging (who am I to judge, I run a blog about caging cocks…) if you’re getting interested in finding out more. I thought I’d share their excellent Q&A introduction!

http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2012/03/new-to-pegging/

1. What is Pegging?

Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man’s anus with a strap-on dildo.

2. Doesn’t it Hurt to Get Pegged?

Not if done right. Many women believe that anal sex hurts because they have been on the receiving end of an inexperienced partner who did not know what they were doing (too fast, not enough lube). If it hurts you are not doing it right.

3. Does it Feel Good for a Man to get Pegged?

Yes, yes and YES. The vast majority of men love pegging, because it stimulates their prostate gland which can be extremely pleasurable.

4. Is a Man Gay if He Enjoys Pegging?

Absolutely not. Pegging has nothing to do with gender preference. A man who enjoys anal play is simply a man who enjoys anal play. The area of your body that you enjoy having stimulated has no bearing on the gender you prefer to do the stimulating.

5. If a Man Gets Pegged Will it Turn Him Gay?

No. There is no gay fairy with magic gay dust that will sprinkle a guy as soon as he gets pegged so that he suddenly prefers his own gender. He might decide he reallylikes ass play, but it will not affect his normal gender preference. If a man is bi-curious to begin with, it might encourage him to explore his own gender, but a solidly straight man will be just as straight after a woman pegs him. Otherwise a lesbian getting fucked with a strap-on would turn her straight, right?

6. Is Pegging Always Like I See in Pegging Porn Videos On-line?

Decidedly not, unless you are viewing the amateur videos. Pegging in porn is almost exclusively portrayed as necessarily connected with feminization (men wearing women’s clothing or lingerie), humiliation, degradation and abuse. Those fetishes can be experienced with pegging if that is your preference, but it is not mandatory by any means. You can practice pegging the way that works for you and your partner.

7. So “Normal” Couples Can Do Pegging, Too?

Absolutely. Pegging can be a loving, caring act for couples. It can simply be one more pleasurable act to add to your sexual repertoire.

8. But Isn’t Pegging Really Kinky?

That’s a matter of perspective. Pegging is becoming more popular all the time. Stores that sell strap-ons have a bit of trouble keeping enough beginner kits on the shelves these days. Most couples do not engage in pegging, so if that is your definition of kinky, then perhaps it is! Pegging gained in popularity ever since the “Bend Over Boyfriend” films. More and more couples are discovering the joys of pegging every day. There is a lot of pleasure to be had…

9. Why Would a Woman Want to Peg Her Man?

  • Pegging can bring a man exquisitely intense pleasure; orgasms 10 times more powerful than usual with a lot more ejaculate.
  • Some women find they can orgasm while pegging their man, too. There is a variety of strap-ons, some with vibrators.
  • Some women enjoy the reversal of being the penetrator and watching their man be receptive and vulnerable. They enjoy…“running the fuck”.
  • The taboo aspect is a turn-on for some. Forbidden Fruit.

10. Why Would a Man Want to Be Pegged?

  • Pegging can provide him with orgasms 10 times more powerful that he has ever experienced with a lot more ejaculate.
  • Some men are able to orgasm from pegging alone, with no stimulation of their penis.
  • Multiple orgasms from pegging are enjoyed by some men as well.
  • Some men enjoy the feeling of vulnerability and receptiveness necessary in pegging. They enjoy not having to “run the fuck” and be in control.

11. Where is the Prostate Gland?

The prostate gland, which is the source of pleasure for men during pegging, is located under the bladder, in front of the rectum and at the base of a man’s penis. It can be stimulated through the anus with a finger, toy or dildo. If the man is laying on his stomach, push in and down. If he is laying on his back, push in and up. In that position, many men enjoy a rhythmic stroking, as if you were making a “come hither” motion with your finger. If women are familiar with the location of their G-spot (now being called the female prostate), the location is pretty much the same, interestingly enough. If the woman explores with her finger and communicates with the man – he can guide her to where it is and what feels best.

12. How Can I Convince My Partner to Peg Me?

That is a very involved question and I’ve written an entire article about it which you can find here.

13. How Can I Convince My Partner to Let Me Peg Him?

For some men all it takes is to tell him you found something that will give him an orgasm 10 times more powerful that anything he’s ever experienced and produce alot more come. That will do it for a significant portion of sexually adventuresome men. For the rest, or for the reluctant, this question is also very involved….read morehere.

14. Where Can I Find Even More Information About Pegging?

Read through the FAQs here at Pegging Paradise and that will give you even more information.

15. Where Can I Find Step-by-Step Instructions to Male Anal Play For Beginners?

Here is an article written for women on the best way to begin to explore your man’s ass. This is what to do before you explore pegging!

Check out their FAQ for more great info!

http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2012/03/faq/

Couldn’t have said it better myself!

healthysexymarriage: Fitness Lifestyle: Getting Him Started A…

healthysexymarriage:

Fitness Lifestyle: Getting Him Started

A follower recently asked:

  • My boyfriend is shorter than me, I’m 178 and he is about 170.  He doesn’t go to the gym, but I think if he ever went to the gym he would look great and sexy and our lovemaking would be even better.  How do I tell him this?  How do I tell him that I would enjoy him more if he worked out – without hurting his feelings?  

Great question!  Very tricky.  We all know how hard it is to convince yourself to workout.  Well it’s even harder to tactfully encourage someone else to do it.  Years ago, I felt these exact same emotions, and I dealt with this exact issue with my husband.  To be clear: The “issue” was not his disinterest in fitness at the time (he was always sexy to me).  Rather, the “issue” was that I had a primal desire to see him at his body’s best – I knew it would be extra sexy, and I wanted it for us both.  I think that’s what you’re expressing, too.

I have some advice, based on my personal experience, but I definitely do not have a guaranteed answer.  The truth is: It is nearly impossible for most people to find the motivation necessary to eat right and exercise if they’re doing it for someone else’s benefit (even if he loves her).  In other words, the only way to start and stick-to a workout is when you’re doing it for yourself.  The motivation has to come from him, not you.

Years ago, my husband had zero interest in fitness.  He had a lot of other stresses, exercise and healthy food just weren’t priorities, and luckily his natural body type was attractively tall and slim.  Still, he had a six-pack when we first started dating (in our 20′s), and it was hot.  Like… bite-my-knuckles, heart-skipping, why-are-my-panties-so-wet hot!  And then, with age and life, the six-pack faded.  I always loved him.  But, yeah… I kinda missed the six-pack, and wanted it back. (just telling it like it is!)

I bought him a gym membership for Christmas… he never used it.  I offered to edge him for 15 minutes straight, every day he worked out… he rarely did.  I was tactful and subtle because it wasn’t important enough to pressure him too hard.  But nothing I did made any difference.

Then one day, on his own, he bought weights on craigslist, started lifting and running, and changed his whole diet.  It was all his idea, and he stuck to it ever since.  Years of me politely pushing did nothing.  It had to come from him, and I don’t know what triggered it, exactly.  I know some things that helped, though…

First, it helped that he bought weights and could lift at home, rather than going to a gym, which takes a lot more time.  I wouldn’t buy weights as a gift for your bf, though.  That’s too much like getting him a gym membership – too direct and forceful, imho.  We humans naturally get defensive when we feel challenged, especially on issues that affect our ego and self-esteem.  But you could buy weights for yourself, and he could use them. (Do you live together?)

Which brings up a good point: Do you workout and eat healthy?  One way to influence him is by example.  This is yet another benefit of partnership – one partner’s good habits (and results!) can encourage the other partner to follow.  This worked in a very funny way between me and my husband.  I used to exercise every day, while he didn’t.  Then, eventually, he started and got really into it… while I started losing my willpower and slacking off.  But his commitment and progress inspired me to start again.  So we fed off each other’s energy, pulled through the lows, and now we both work hard to stay fit.  We keep each other going.

Another factor that affected my husband’s choice to get fit: We’re at that age where our friends are all getting married, so there was a string of, like, 7 weddings in 3 years.  I was a bridesmaid for some; he was a groomsman for some.  And he wanted to look good for friends who hadn’t seen him in years.  The weddings were in hot vacation spots, too (Las Vegas, Orlando, etc), where he would have to wear a bathing suit to cabana parties, etc.  It sounds like the kind of thing you’d expect from a bridesmaid or a bride – dieting to fit into a bikini or The Dress – but men feel it, too.  We’re all human.

So perhaps you could plan a vacation, far in advance, to a tropical place?  Or a reunion with old friends?

Also, in my husband’s case, as he got older he settled more naturally into his body and became more handsome (damn men!), and once he started getting compliments on his appearance, he liked it and wanted more.  Fitness feeds on itself.  Once you start, the results, confidence, and energy keeps you going.  The hard part is starting.

But kind of like push-starting a car, maybe some unexpected compliments would prime him to pursue fitness on his own.  To a man on the heavy side for his height, when he grabs you, you could say something like: “Whoa!  There’s muscle under there!”  To a man on the skinny side: “Damn!  It’s so unfair that you men only get sexier as you get older and your muscles mature!”  The idea is not to tell him what to do, but rather to suggest/hint at his potential, in a positive way.

The hard part about that is that he expects compliments from you and is probably desensitized to them, if you’ve been together very long.  My husband admits that some of the most motivating compliments he got were from younger strangers who thought he was single.  You can’t control that, but it might help to put him in more sexually-charged social situations – going out more, casual drinking, being a bit more daring and open in conversations with attractive couples, etc.

Last, but not least, my husband experienced a dramatic uptick in libido when he finally started lifting.  He still struggles to handle what he calls his “perpetual horny haze.”  It’s directly tied to his workouts (believe me, I wish it was all me) and he loves the buzz.  It’s yet another feedback loop that keeps him going – as long as I “accommodate” his horniness by giving him frequent sexual interaction (which, btw, I’m thrilled to do!  Finally, he’s on my level!).

So that’s another benefit you might be able to subtly point out to your bf: “Hey, I heard that after only a week or two of regular exercise, men’s libido goes through the roof, to where you can have sex every day – sometimes two or three times a day!  Is that true?”  Same trick: You’re hinting at his potential, not telling him what to do.

And there’s always the (somewhat dishonest) Penis Card: “Hey, I heard that regular exercise increases bloodflow to the penis, giving you stronger, harder erections.  Is that true?

So, to recap: It’s really hard to make someone else work out.  You can try to make exercise more convenient, tactfully compliment him, put him in a suit (or bathing suit) more often, prompt other women to pay attention to him somehow, and hint at more sex. (more sex, as a consequence of increased libido, not as a prize) But nothing is guaranteed, because ultimately the decision has to come from him, and it might take time.  Good luck!!

Anyone else have any thoughts?

healthysexymarriage: surrenderyourself2me: msjennx: eros-unlea…

healthysexymarriage:

surrenderyourself2me:

msjennx:

eros-unleashed:

That’s because it is, first and foremost, a relationship. Those require total honesty, hard work, listening, empathy, understanding, commitment, and a certain degree of humility when the need arises.

The BDSM part must be built on that foundation, or you’re just “play partners.”

This.

So many people ask me about it and this is always my answer.

Well said.

Another useful training device when your cuckold husband is…

Another useful training device when your cuckold husband is bothering you or otherwise in the way …